HONOURING & ACKNOWLEDGING 💕

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HONOURING & ACKNOWLEDGING 💕

This morning my entire being was enveloped in sadness.

I was feeling deep emotional pain in every inch of my body.

Close to tears.

Feeling alone.

Tired.

Shedding some remaining beliefs around not being good enough.

Letting go of past relationships that have had their reason and season.

Acknowledging my body and health and what it’s currently going through.

Feeling gentle.

Quiet.

Introspective.

Knowing that this is the end of one chapter and the exciting beginning of the next.

I’m sitting with it all.

So much of me wanted to run from the way I was feeling this morning.

From the uncomfortable.

Instead, I took a deep breath and let my inner child know that she was safe and that she was held.

I let my adult self know this too.

So often we reject our emotions.


We hide.

Push away.

Ignore.

From the wise teachings of my Dad, this morning I chose to get messy with it.

To FEEL it all.

To honour this part of myself as a woman.

To acknowledge this part of my OWN womanhood and to also acknowledge it within my sisters.

Big love incredible women 💕

You Are So Much More Than Your Past Actions and Decisions

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I HAD THAT SICK FEELING IN THE PIT OF MY STOMACH

I called my sister to come pick me up.

As we were going through the drive through I looked down and noticed that my bikini bottoms were on backwards.

I felt sick.

Not just from the alcohol and the possibility of my drink being spiked.

Sick because I couldn't remember what happened.

I had that icky feeling of guilt in the pit of my stomach.

That feeling that I'd done something wrong.

I vaguely remembered not getting along with some of the other girls that were on board.

And I remember feeling so misunderstood.

So much for a relaxing afternoon on the water.

I vaguely remembered having sex.

But I’m not sure it was consensual.

I vaguely remembered kissing another woman in a hot tub.

But the rest is a blur.

Actually, it's all a blur.

And to this day I still don't know what's real and what's not.

I carried the guilt and shame of feeling like a 'slut' for such a long time.

I felt violated.

I was embarrassed that I was told I was never welcome in that space again.

And I never knew if it was because of them or if it was because of me.

I felt misunderstood.

Judged.

Alone.

Dirty.

I was upset that no matter how hard I tried to remember what happened I just couldn't.

I was disappointed that the person I trusted that day didn't have my back.

That I didn’t have my OWN back.

And when I reflect back now, years later, with a healed heart and no judgement, I realise something.

This girl was hurting.
She was lost.
Looking for love in all the wrong places.
She was quick to give her power away.
Quick to settle for second best.
And self-love wasn't even in her vocabulary.

I judged her more than I've ever judged anything or anyone else in my life.

Fast forward to now and I barely remember the woman I was back then.

Years of diving deep in to my own personal development since then, peeling back the layers, owning my shit and going unwaveringly deep in to the vastness of my soul has led me to where I am today.

It took me a lot of years to be ok with ME.

To stop beating myself up.

To stop feeling like I was unworthy.

To let go of the guilt.

The shame.

The embarrassment.

I now know that I was doing the best that I could.
I now know how to deal with my pain.
I now know my worth.
I now love myself unconditionally.
I now no longer seek outside of myself for love.
I now choose to never settle for second best.
I now choose to never give my power away.

And my self-love is off the richter scale.

We all fight our own inner battle and beat ourselves up for things that we have done.

We are our own worst critics.

And we are so quick to judge.

Others AND ourselves.

Learning to become our own best friend is so much more rewarding than the pain we often put ourselves through.

Remember to be kind to yourself amazing soul.

You are so much more than your past actions and decisions xx

I see you!

Big love always 
Allie ❤️

Did You Know?

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WHAT THE 😮

Did you know that 95% of our thoughts are unconscious???

And those thoughts are based on our patterning, programming, upbringing and conditioning.

They are also mostly thoughts of what we DO NOT want, what we are fearful of, lack, judgement, and so on...

What this means is that only 5% of the time we live in a MINDFUL state, thinking of our hopes, dreams, wishes and desires.

😱😱😱5%😱😱😱

Drop the mic 🎤

When we live in an unconscious state we take direction from our past, our family members, our programming and our outdated belief systems.

Crazy huh!!!

To break it down even further, most people live each day on autopilot with an undercurrent of all the things they DO NOT want running the show.

So what do they get???

MORE of what they do not want 🤔

They re-live the same fears, doubts and worries and then wake up and do it all again the next day.

So how do we change this?

Firstly we get to become CONSCIOUS of our thoughts.

MINDFUL of our thoughts.

We get to become the OBSERVER of our thoughts.

From there we can ask ourselves specific questions.

Two of my favourites to ask myself are ‘do I actually believe what I am thinking’ and ‘what do I choose instead?’

Other tools include:

🌀Timeline Therapy (Master Practitioner here 🙋‍♀️)

🌀Visualisation processes

🌀Listening to audio as you go to sleep. During this phase as we slip into theta & the unconscious mind state we are able to reprogram the unconscious mind with what it is we DO want - love, happiness, joy, wealth, confidence, etc...

Which means we get MORE love, happiness, joy, wealth, confidence and so on.

When we go beyond the mind and realise that we are not our thoughts we are able to open up to ALL of the possibilities that exist within us AND external to us.

We begin to free ourselves of the daily internal battles and we begin to LIVE.

Truly LIVE.

Something that most people never experience.

The great news... if you didn’t already know this now you do!

So my question to you...

What do you choose instead???

Big love always

Allie 💚

Read This If You Struggle To Have Belief In Yourself

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SOMEONE ONCE SAID TO ME...

If you don’t believe in who you are, you can borrow my belief until you do.

So I did.

And I clung to that KNOWING that I was meant for more even though I didn’t know what ‘more’ was.

That was around 10 years ago now when I was living what felt like a double life.

I was smiling on the outside yet carrying so much guilt and shame on the inside.

I seemed carefree and happy.

Yet I was so self-conscious, quick to take offence, lonely, sad, living in a home where there was often drugs, alcohol and continuous verbal abuse, not knowing how to get myself out of that.

The deeper I went the harder it felt to bring myself out.

I felt like I was drowning.

So desperately wanting the life I dreamed of.

Yet I felt like this weight kept pulling me down.

And I had no idea how to change it.

So I started listening to my souls nudges.

The whispers.

Barely audible yet definitely there.

THIS is what began my deep journey soul work.

My expansion.

One step at a time.

Fumbling.

Healing.

Learning the truth of who I was regardless of all the guilt and shame I carried.

Back then I made an unconscious commitment to become the best version of me possible.

A version where I could stand and have a conversation with you without looking away because I was no longer fearful that you would see through me and not like what you saw.

A version where I was in a loving, solid, caring relationship not one where yelling, fighting, abuse, drugs and alcohol had become the norm.

A version where I felt safe to trust others AND myself so that I COULD create more meaningful relationships.

A version where my rejection issues from childhood and ALL of my relationships was no longer dominating my world.

A version where I just knew that I was loveable and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was not only worth receiving love from others but also from myself.

Fast forward to now and I remember how hard that journey has felt over the years.

I’ve stumbled.

Many times.

Yet I’ve continued to show up for myself.

To get to know who I am - truthfully who I am.

I’ve peeled back layer upon layer of shitty choices, bad experiences and self-loathing.

To get to where I stand today.

In front of you with heart wide open.

A confidence to look you in the eye and feel safe because I know the truth of who I am.

Because I now honour and deeply respect ALL of who I am.

And when I look in that mirror I have a compassion and deep love that has taken me my entire lifetime to feel and acknowledge.

I did this by making a decision to heal my hurt, to let go of people and things that no longer served me, to show up for myself even when I didn’t feel like it, to create what I wanted and to KNOW I was worthy of it.

I did it by committing to my own personal growth.

By spending time around people who lift me higher.

Even when I couldn’t see what was in front of me.

Even when I felt like giving up because it felt too hard.

And I’m so grateful I chose myself as my number one value.

I’m so grateful I chose greatness over mediocrity.

It takes courage for us to stand up and say ‘no more’.

To say ‘I deserve better’.

To feel worthy of all we desire.

To feel like we belong.

To commit to feeling comfortable in our own skin.

And once we choose this vast, colourful and often uncomfortable path, there’s no going back to what we knew before.

Because self-love, self-respect and self-worth are where freedom begins.

Everyday you have a chance to make a choice that serves you; or one that does not.

Each day you have an opportunity to say YES to yourself and to take another step closer to the life you wish to live; or not.

Each day you have a choice about how you treat yourself, how you treat those around you and who you allow into your world; or not.

It’s not always easy or comfortable to step out of the box, to spread your wings, to acknowledge the truth of who you are, to take a chance, to listen to your soul, to choose a different path, to say YES to yourself more often, and to say no to others, to honour your needs and to create a life of freedom and choices.

It certainly IS worth it though ❤️❤️❤️

Do I Trigger You?

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DO I TRIGGER YOU?

I FRICKIN HOPE SO!

I hope my beaming light of shiny-ness shines awareness on all the areas where you are dimming your own light so that it inspires you to step into your own brightness and be more of who you truly are.

I hope my high-vibration and intense energy makes you feel uncomfortable if you are choosing to sit in a victim space, blame mode or an I’m too scared story because playing small isn’t serving you anymore and the truth of the matter, you are here to experience a life of joy, love, expansion and abundance.

I hope my conversations about money and wealth stir something within you if you aren’t yet making the money you desire because it’s your BIRTHRIGHT to be rich rather than living a life of ‘just getting by’.

I hope my usage of the word fuck makes you cringe if you secretly say it yet you are worried about what others would think of you if you used it on social media... because hiding who you truly are is one of the most debilitating and unsatisfying, soul-destroying things you can do.

I hope my life upgrades make you question everything you are unhappy with because Queen/King you DESERVE the best of everything.

I hope my living a life I love stirs something within you to make you start listening to those soul nudges and start designing, creating and living a life you love. You are meant for big things this lifetime and I know that you know it... within every inch of your being.

I hope my unfiltered truth gives you something to think about if you are still working a job you aren’t happy with, still in a relationship that isn’t fulfilling you and still doing the same uncomfortable thing day in day out because YOU my friend were put on this planet to make a difference. And deep down you know this is your truth.

I hope I trigger you on a regular basis to step up in your life, to take aligned action, to love more deeply, to dream bigger, to create what you desire, to speak your truth, to say no more often, to live a little more, to set higher expectations for yourself, to stop settling for what’s not serving you, and to fall a little more in love with yourself, each and every single day.

YOU are not on this planet to live a mediocre life. You are here to live big, to make a difference, to inspire yourself AND others and to do ALL the things you know you desire AND deserve.

I’m done with seeing women live at a smidge of their capacity letting fear, shame and guilt hold them back from creating a full body fuck YES life.

There are definitely no re-runs!

I love you 💕

Allie xx

Your World IS Your 'Real World'

 
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WHEN I GO BACK INTO THE REAL WORLD...

When you what 😳

Your world IS your real world.

ALL of it!

And if ALL of it is bringing you more unhappiness than joy THAT’S your cue to LISTEN. 

To listen to your soul nudges.
To listen to your heart.
To listen to your truth.

You aren’t broken and you aren’t needing fixing.

You’ve got it all backwards.

This IS your life.

It’s not WHEN you get that thing, when you make that money, when you find the right partner, when you get that pay rise, when you do that course, when you work with that mentor.

It’s NOW.

RIGHT now!!! 

Go spread those epic wings and choose to LIVE that precious life of yours incredible human 💙

#barefootbusinessqueen


READ as a reminder THAT YOU GET TO BE BOLD & BE SEEN

 
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I’M DEFINITELY NOT SPEAKING ON STAGE AGAIN 🤣


Ha, funny statement that!!!


I made the decision last year that I was no longer interested in public speaking.


I wasn’t interested in being SEEN.


However my beautiful soul had other ideas 😋


I was given a very clear message when I went to Peru that I had it all wrong. It wasn’t about being seen, it was about it being time to share my message on a much bigger scale.


The day I stepped into THAT red Judy Copley Coutour I decided that every speaking gig I do this year I will wear one of her exquisite creations.


This is 1 of 3 that I tried on this morning that I’m deciding on for next weekend ❤️


I’ll be sharing with a room of close to 1000 extraordinary men and women about something very dear to my heart.


Can you guess what it is???


I’ll also be wearing a statement piece from this incredible designer and creator, that reminds me of my journey and exactly where it is I’ve come from AND where it is I’m going.


It’s also a reminder for other women to be daring, to honour themselves, to show up as ALL of who they are AND to embrace their own unique Queenness 👑


A big part of my mission is to inspire and empower women to fall deeply in love with who they are so that they KNOW in every fibre of their being that they ARE enough.


Just as they are!!!


Here’s to living a meaningful, lit up, adventurous, full body YES life ladies 💕


Big love always xx


#barefootbusinessqueen


p.s Happy Goddess Day 👑

HANDS IN THE AIR, I SURRENDER

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HANDS IN THE AIR I SURRENDER 💫


Today I’m feeling such a deep sadness.


This past week at the soul retreat I experienced sooooooo much. So much anger, release, emotion, triggers, resistance, healing, connection.


And today my body is feeling like it wants to walk away from almost everything in my life.


Business, friendships, social constructs, people, creating, doing, society.


There’s a heaviness I’m feeling within.


Tears brimming with every thought and every word that I type.


Feelings I haven’t felt for a very long time are coming to the surface.


Feeling raw, vulnerable, naked, alone.


I remember for a moment that this is how I used to live my life.


The difference then... I was consumed by it. I made myself wrong. I didn’t understand. I judged myself. I was in a victim state. I felt like I was falling apart.


This WAS my normal.


Tied to feelings of unworthiness, guilt, sadness, fear, shame, rejection.


Remembering also in this moment where I’ve come from. How much I’ve grown within.


How my new normal is worlds apart from where I was a few years ago.


Knowing deep in my heart that these feelings right now are just another layer of my own personal journey being exposed for me to step into and peel back to even more of my truth.


So much is coming to the surface to be seen, felt and grieved.


Reflecting on the past twelve months how friendships have come and gone.


Businesses have grown, ended, exploded and also been reignited.


Learnings have come in all shapes and sizes.


Patterns and programs have shown up to be shifted and healed.


Today this journey feels tough.

I feel tired.

I feel exhausted.

I feel ALL of it.


And I also know that what’s to come from here is NEXT LEVEL.


That experiences like this open us up to deeper growth and expansion.


So today I’m choosing to feel the feels. To let the tears flow as they need. To surrender. To feel the sadness. To lean in. And as my Dad would say I’m choosing to roll around and get dirty with the emotion.


Letting go of all resistance and judgement of self.


First saying thank you and KNOWING that there’s a gift in all of it.


Knowing that my heart is cracking open a little more and that what’s to come is extraordinary ❤️


#barefootbusinessqueen

AS A WOMAN...

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As a woman who used to live inside the chatter and chaos of her own mind, constantly stressed out and on autopilot; I understand what it's like to feel like I am going crazy.

As a woman who used to experience intense anxiety, I understand what it feels like to want to run my car off the road at 110k/hr and crash in to a tree; whilst my son was in the car in front.

As a woman who used to choose men based off wanting to be loved regardless of whether he drank too much, took too many drugs, cheated, pushed me around or yelled abuse at me; I understand what it's like to feel unworthy and unlovable.

As a woman who used to doubt herself, reject herself and lack self-confidence; I know what it's like to want to be liked and to just want to fit in.

As a woman who used to cry at everything; I understand what it's like to be unable to speak my truth, to feel like I'm breaking inside, to feel sadness deep within my soul and to lose my smile and my happiness.

As a woman who became a mother; I understand what it's like to feel guilty every day of my life, to make mistakes and to second guess myself constantly.

As a woman who decided that it was time to stop feeling this way and that I deserved more in life; I understand what it's like to take the first step of change.

I understand what it's like to push through feelings of doubt, fear and pain.

I understand what it's like to do the work on myself.

I understand what it's like to choose me first.

I understand what it's like to put my own needs before someone else's.

I understand what it's like to step of the cliff of life that we falter on and fall without wings until I stepped in to my hearts desire.

I understand what it's like to say YES to what I know I deserve.

I understand what it's like to invest in my own self-development and expansion.

I understand what it's like to dive deep within and peel back the layers of anger, sadness, fear, hurt, shame and guilt.

I understand what it's like to fall deeply in love with ALL of me.

And this is why I love what I do.

I love working with women who have walked a similar path.

Sharing tools and guiding them to their own truth.

I love holding a woman's hand as she steps in to her own sense of self worth.

Walking beside her as she realises that she can be, do and have whatever she wants in life.

If you feel like you are going through some stuff and need some support right now to improve your life, take your business to the next level, deepen in to your being, or heal old wounds, I would love to support you.

If you are feeling the pull, send me a message with a little about yourself and why you want to work with me and we can see if it's a fit.

Here’s to living a full body YES life.

Big love always

Allie ❤️

#barefootbusinessqueen

WHEN REMINDERS LIKE THIS POP UP

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I saw this come up on my Facebook news feed yesterday.

Someone had commented on this post from April 2017.

It’s amazing how things appear just as we need them.

I thought I’d share the post below with you, maybe there’s something for you in it.

From April 2017:

AN INTERESTING REMINDER!

12 months ago my heart felt like it was shattered in to a gazillion pieces and it was never going to heal.

You know that feeling of extreme pain deep within your core?  

The feeling that suffocates you... brings you to your knees... challenges you... and feels like it's breaking you... 

Yep, that's where I was at.

Facebook kindly shared a 1 year memory with me today that reminded me of this. The image was of me holding the book 'The Power of Now' and the words that accompanied it said 'It's time'.  

Talk about a game changer.  

That book had sat on my bookshelf unread for 20 years and the memory this morning took me back to that day 12 months ago.  

My relationship was ending.  

I felt it.  

My partner was heading off on a 9 week adventure and as we sat at the airport and I looked deep within his soul I could feel the beginning of the end.  

As tears began to well in my eyes I looked at him and the words that came from my lips were 'i am so grateful for ALL of what we have shared. And no matter what happens between now and when you get home I am forever grateful for us'.

The next 4 weeks I went through the break up on my own. I shed tear upon tear for everything that had happened between us. I had anxiety that kept tugging on my heart strings and just wouldn't let up. I spent time curled up in bed reading. I grieved. I cried some more. I talked it out with a best friend. Then cried some more.  

Ironically, every part of myself that I felt I had lost I began to find again.  

It was like the grief was a mixture of heartache and loss for my relationship yet it was also the heartache of every time I had let myself die a little more on the inside. It was the heartache of every time I had let myself down. It was the heartache of all the times I had let my own needs come second. It was the heartache of not setting boundaries. And funnily enough, it was the heartache of what felt like losing me yet finding me all over again.

Over that 9 week timeframe A LOT changed.  

I found meditation.

I read The Power of Now.

I started writing consistently in my gratitude journal.

I started exercising again 3 times a week.

I was eating well.

I heard the calling and I was eagerly following.

3 days after my partner came home we separated. 

Whilst there were intense feelings of anger and sadness it was the most beautiful break up I had ever experienced.

The universe had other ideas for us though and a few weeks later we came back together.  

This time things were different. 

During the time a part I began to understand why it was important for me to put myself first - in ALL areas of my life.

I began to see my patterns and programs that I had allowed to keep me playing small in my relationship and in every other area of my life.

I began to understand myself and what was important to me.

I began the journey home to myself and I could feel my soul cry with joy that I had finally listened to the call.

I created a daily morning ritual to love and honour myself and to keep my mindset strong.

I went to Byron Bay and became certified as an NLP Practitioner and Time Line Therapist through the beautiful Katie Macdonald.

I took part in Regan Anne Hillyer's 12 week Online Empire Builder course.

My job ended.

I wrote my first ebook.

And I felt the pull to begin teaching other women how to do the same. How to let go of what was no longer serving them. How to listen to what it was that they truly wanted. How to put themselves first. How to step in to the amazing women that they are and how to make a difference in their own lives so that they can do/be/have all that they truly desire.

In January of this year I created Alicia Aberley International.

I also ran my first ever FREE 5 Day Online Course.

February I went to Bali for a 3 Day Mastermind.

I also went to Melbourne to connect with a soul sister I had met through the Online Empire Builder.

I began guiding and coaching 5 incredible women to create change and growth in their own lives.

March I went back to Bali for another 8 Day Mastermind.

I appeared in a number of online publications including ABC, CNN and FOX.

I also worked with another 4 incredible women who were seeking guidance to shift and grow in their own lives.

And here we are.

April 2017... 12 months later.

I'm working with more incredible women who are choosing to remove their limitations and step in to their full potential.  

I've been interviewed for my first Podcast.

And through it all, I have been peeling back layer upon layer of all the things that I needed to heal within.

I have been listening to my soul's calling.

I have learnt to put myself first so that I can be of complete service to others.

I have stepped in to total alignment within ALL areas of my life.

I have learnt to love and honour myself.

I have found purpose and passion.

And finally I have an unwavering peace deep within that is as strong as the lighthouse.  Jonathan George, thank you for allowing me to see my own strength (and for the photo below).  

My mission and purpose in life now is to guide others on their own path home. To find their own peace within and to design a life they truly love.

I am forerver grateful I listened to the calling home.

Thank YOU for being a part of this journey with me.

Big love always

Allie